The hardest conflicts aren't external. They're the ones happening inside.
I work with people who are negotiating internal wars—whether you're a PhD student wrestling with cultural displacement and imposter syndrome, moving through grief, learning to speak with precision in English, or discovering the cathartic power of structured journaling. These aren't separate problems. They're all forms of internal negotiation.
My two books, Your Civil War Within and Treaties with the Dead, map this territory. The frameworks in them—how to negotiate with the voices that hold you back, how to build treaties instead of seeking false peace—form the foundation of all my coaching work.
Over 30 years, I've learned one thing: the ones who navigate these conflicts successfully aren't the ones who try to "heal" or "overcome." They're the ones who negotiate. Who build treaties with what they carry.
That's what I help you do.
A note on neurodiversity: Many of my clients are neurodivergent—ADHD, autistic, or both. If that's you, you already know that internal negotiation looks different in a neurodivergent brain. I work with that reality, not against it. The frameworks in my books speak directly to the internal conflicts neurodivergent people face.
Helping Clients Worldwide Find Their Voice
My clients come from all over the world—China, Japan, Brazil, the UK, and beyond. My approach is shaped by thirty years in global peacebuilding: the Balkans, Northern Ireland, South America, Southeast Asia. I bring that same lens to coaching—helping people navigate cultural difference, work through emotions from the past, and build everyday confidence.
I'm not here to fix or cure you. You already have the answers inside you—my job is to help you find them.
Start Your Own Excavation
Before coaching, try the method yourself. These two guided tools walk you through the same framework I use with clients — at your own pace, on your own terms. Many people start here, then bring what they find into a coaching conversation.
The Excavation Starter Kit
A 7-Day Guided Journaling Experience
A structured 7-day journaling journey that walks you through the excavation process step by step. Designed for anyone ready to start negotiating with what they carry — with guidance, not guesswork.
$15
The Excavation — Guided 6-Week Edition
A Guided 6-Week Reflective Writing Programme
Twelve questions distilled from both books, walked through two at a time over six weeks. Your answers are saved as you go. Once you've dug through all six weeks, you earn fifteen minutes one-to-one with me over Zoom.
$27
Already own one? Enter the Starter Kit or enter the six-week dig with your access code.
Coaching Services
PhD & MA Coaching
For students in education and social sciences navigating cultural displacement, imposter syndrome, and the internal conflicts of academic life.
Learn more →Grief Coaching
For anyone negotiating loss, absence, and the dead you carry inside. Building treaties with grief instead of fighting it.
Learn more →English Language Coaching
For international learners seeking precision and authority in English. Language as internal negotiation.
Learn more →Writing as Excavation
Structured writing that uncovers what talking alone cannot reach. A deliberate dig into the arguments, grief, and unfinished business you have been carrying.
Learn more →The Books
Your Civil War Within
Negotiate Peace with the Voices That Hold You Back
The framework. How to see internal conflict as governance, not as pathology. How to negotiate with the voices that seem to oppose you—and why false peace never holds.
Ebook available now. Paperback coming soon.
Get the ebook →Treaties with the Dead
A memoir grounded in the frameworks of Your Civil War Within. A case study in what happens when you negotiate with loss, with family, with history. And what you discover—late in life—about neurodiversity, about the wars you've been fighting, and about building treaties that actually hold.
Ebook available now. Paperback coming soon.
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