For anyone negotiating loss, absence, and the dead you carry inside.
Grief is an internal war you didn't declare.
Loss doesn't just take a person. It takes your sense of who you are, your future, your sense of safety. The role you played in relation to them. The routines that structured your days. The plans you made together.
And you're left negotiating with absence. With the dead you carry inside. With the life you expected but didn't get. With the guilt, the anger, the love that has nowhere to go. With the parts of yourself that died with them.
Treaties with the Dead was written in this territory. It's a map for what happens when you stop trying to "move on" and start negotiating with what you've lost. When you build a treaty with grief instead of fighting it.
Grief coaching here means learning to hold multiple truths at once: the love and the loss. The pain and the survival. The anger and the gratitude. The person who died and the person you are now without them. The life that was and the life that must be built from what remains.
It means finding the internal architecture that lets you live with both.
If you're neurodivergent: Grief often shows up differently in neurodivergent brains. The way you process loss, manage change, navigate relationships after death—it all has its own logic. We work with that, not against it.
We meet on an ongoing basis. In each session, we work with where you are in the grief: the specific losses showing up now, the internal conflicts that grief is creating, the voices competing for your attention and energy.
We use structured journaling (see Journal Writing Coaching) as a core tool for processing. Writing moves grief through your body in ways talking alone cannot.
And we use the frameworks from my books to understand grief not as something to overcome, but as a negotiation. A complex internal treaty that changes over time.
div class="video-placeholder">There's no timeline for this work. Some people work with me for a few months. Some for years. Grief doesn't end; it changes. It becomes less sharp, more integrated. But it doesn't go away, and it shouldn't.
Coaching is about learning to carry it. To honor both the loss and the survival. To build a life that holds space for both.
The result: grief that's been processed, not suppressed. A treaty with what you've lost that lets you live.
Book a discovery call. We'll talk about what you've lost, what's showing up now, and how coaching might support your grief.